they should have done better or more frequently. Maybe they should have gotten the person to stop smoking. This is commonly called neurotic guilt and must be tested by asking one simple question: Did I deliberately do what I feel guilty about? The answer is almost always a “no” if they are honest with themselves. Finally, what is the overall solution to these very common mistakes? One word says it all: persistence! Persistence will pave the way to focusing your attention on the next chapter of your life. When in doubt, act and do something to challenge the thinking behind the negative thought. You already have the wisdom within to know what must be done. Good grief is all about good choices, choices you can make.